How to Claim Victory when You Discover the Significance of Surrendering Without Stipulations

Mar 28, 2024 | Article, Child Loss, Easter, Faith, Family, Freeddom, God's Will, Grief, Healing, Hope, Hurting, Loss, Loss Of Child, Motherhood, Peace, Prayer, Redemption, Spiritual Game Plan, Surrender, Trust

Do you remember the last time you wished you could predict the future?

People pay psychics for private readings to gain insight into their pasts, present, and futures, hoping to find peace, hope, and answers. Yet God tells us to Trust in the Lord with all our hearts and not to lean on our understanding.   He will direct our paths if we acknowledge him in ALL our ways.

Today, I was reflecting on the day before my daughter passed away as we enter into the day before Jesus passed away.

I opened my bible app and found the day’s verse in John 13.  The first verse grabbed my attention and spoke to me differently than before Annie passed away.

It reads: ‘Now before the Feast of the Passover, Jesus knowing that His hour had come that He would depart out of this world to the Father, having loved His own who were in the world, He loved them to the end.” John 13:1

Jesus knew his future in the days before his death, but I was protected from knowing my future before Annie’s.

This morning, as I walked around the town where Annie’s services were held, I processed the weight of that knowledge.

A miracle was all I prayed for; I begged God for one!

I surrender her, but please heal her. 

I surrender her. Please use her life for your glory.

I cried out to him,  “I can’t lose my child!”

God whispered back, “She’s not lost.”

It was at this point I realized the stipulations I had for surrendering my child were out of my control, so I laid her down at Jesus’ feet. 

I heard God’s voice again at that moment: “I surrendered my child, too.”

Jesus also asked that the stipulations of surrendering his life be different when he prayed, “Father if you are willing, take this cup away from me!”  

Then He let go of the stipulations and fully surrendered, “Not my will, but yours, be done.”   Luke 22:42 

It was only through a complete surrender that Jesus could claim victory.

We also have access to that victory when we surrender,  without stipulations.

No matter what you’re facing as we approach this Easter weekend, I pray you find the peace, hope, and answers you long for as you lean on the cross.

Did this message bring you comfort? Please let me know by sharing your thoughts and prayer requests.


Cheri Fletcher

Cheri Fletcher

Cheri is a dynamic writer, compelling speaker, and the host of the “Your Spiritual Game Plan” podcast. 

She is passionate about guiding individuals in crafting a strategy to live out God’s plan for their lives. Cheri believes that understanding the strategic plots of the enemy is crucial in overcoming life’s challenges.

Through the ups and downs of her journey, Cheri has faced numerous changes and transitions, each feeling like a piece of her identity left with each role. 

Her experiences have equipped her with empathy and insight, enabling her to connect with others navigating similar paths.

Cheri and her husband Todd recently relocated to Cleveland from Seattle, WA. They are the proud parents of two newly married sons, a cherished daughter who recently passed, and a loyal canine companion named Libby. 

Despite life’s twists and turns, Cheri has found comfort and joy in the simple pleasures, particularly the company of friends, walks, and visiting new places.  

Known for her hospitality, she warmly invites anyone into her home for a cup of coffee, regardless of the state of her kitchen.

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  1. Monica

    This brought tears to my eyes! Thank you for sharing this, friend.

  2. Nicole Kiger

    Never thought of this way. I do stipulate in my surrender. A deep thought shared from your aching experience. Thankyou for sharing.

    • Cheri Fletcher

      Thank you friend! We are not meant to carry our crosses!! Love ya

  3. Vikki H

    This vlog fills my heart with hope and more gratitude for God’s love for us. Thank you for these beautiful words of comfort, instruction, and purpose. Love you.

    • Cheri Fletcher

      Thank you friend! You are always an encouragement to me!! Love you too!


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