Guest: Jennifer Bryant
~ This piece was written during the COVID pandemic ~
Lately, I have gone through so many emotions. There are days when I wake up energized to face the day. Then there are days I have to work hard to get up.
As a mom, I am relied on to handle what is thrown my way. There is so much truth to the saying “When mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”.
I am not saying that I need to put aside my emotions, but how I handle them plays a huge part in how those around me, especially my kids, handle theirs.
If I allow my emotions to guide me I find myself reacting to situations rather than responding to them.
When my kids were little they would let emotion guide their reactive choice to push, or hit I worked hard to convey the message that it was the choice they made that was bad.
I wanted them to understand that the way we choose to handle emotion is a gauge of what is happening around or within us. They are not bad just because they had a bad feeling or reaction.
The enemy is wanting us to live in an emotional state of both extremes. Longing for constant happiness or living in the entitlement of our anger.
By telling ourselves and our kids that we just want to be happy we are making an emotional state of mind a goal that can not always be maintained.
We all have moments of happiness but then if the next hour we experience disappointment, that could easily send us into a spiral believing we must be a failure.
This is such a crucial time to teach our kids by example and through a conversation about how to identify and label emotions.
Jenn points out 2 questions to ask.
- What are you feeling? (help them identify their feelings)
- What happened right before you started feeling this?
In Part 1 Jenn and I talk about the vital role moms play in helping kids to navigate their emotions, and how to help them to depend on God and use their feelings as a gauge instead of a guide.
Jenn reminds us that God gave us emotions to alert us and point us back to our need for Him.
Here is Part 1 Episode 15 of Let’s Talk with Jennifer Bryant
What is the #1 emotion that you struggle with?
Please take a minute to identify the emotion and give it a label. Then click to leave a comment and share how being able to give it an identity could help use it as a gauge.
Your story could give me the words to help others who think they are struggling alone with that emotion.
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