The Surprising Truth About Our Motives Behind Giving & Our Ability To Receive~ Part 1

by | Apr 17, 2020 | Article, Uncategorized

I had just joined a writing community in 2018 and received a list of short interviews with authors that the administrators would be hosting. One of the titles intrigued me, Made Like Martha – Good News For Women Who Get Things Done ~ Katie Reid.  After the introductions, the host read a quote from the back of the book and I was on Amazon in seconds.

“Do you want to sit at Jesus’ feet as Mary did – but you feel the need to get things done?”  

For me, I felt as if I were being lazy when I sat. Understanding that God wants me to serve from a place of peace and settledness, not from a state of panic and striving is easy to say, but hard to carry out.

I still battle with the drive to give and serve from a place of being good enough and I often miss the joy of serving from the place of ‘daughtership’ as Katie points out.  I used to hear myself saying ‘If I don’t do it no one else will’, and then I would fulfill the obligation with unjustified resentment.  It was not the other’s fault that I agreed to help, organize or lead.  Actually it was pretty prideful of me to believe that God would not be able to use someone else!

Recently a reader reached out to me and asked how to handle it when people in our lives are the givers and have a hard time receiving or worse refuse to receive. This got me to stop and evaluate my own motives behind giving and my inability to receive.

Knowing that this topic is not a simple blog post answer I asked two friends who also have experience and wisdom in this area to share their thoughts.

Here in Part 1, I will be talking with now friend  Katie Reid about the motives that drive our serving. Katie also brings to light a deficiency that I can relate to. She calls it Receptivity Deficiency – or Daughtership Deficiency.

I hope you are blessed as you watch Katie and I share in Part 1 of ~The Surprising Truth About Our Motives Behind Giving & Our Ability To Receive



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Katie M. Reid is a national speaker, podcast host of The Martha + Mary Show, and author of Made Like Martha: Good News for the Woman Who Gets Things Done. She encourages women to find grace in the unraveling of life and live out their unique purpose. Katie is a fan of musicals and cut-to-the-chase conversations over tea.                               Text MARTHA to 33777 to sign-up for Katie’s e-newsletter.


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