You are Exactly the Mother that God Intended for Your Child!

May 12, 2024 | Article, Child Loss, children, Chosen, Comfort, Family, Forgiveness, Grief, Loss Of Child, Motherhood, Mothers, Prodigal, Purpose, Regret, Spiritual Game Plan, Trust

Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate the mothers that we have, mothers that we’ve had, mentors who have mothered us, and also to celebrate that we are mothers.

If you have been around me for a while, one of the sayings that I have had is:

โ€œ๐Ž๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ซ๐จ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž ๐›๐ฎ๐ญ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ž๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ง๐š๐ฅ.โ€

As mothers, we go through many roles. Sometimes, they end after a season of time they’ve come to an end and have served their purpose. Sometimes, those roles are taken from us, such as the loss of a child.

I decided to stay home with my kids, and my husband and I worked hard to make that happen.ย I remember feeling so proud that I could leave the workforce and be home. I’ll never forget one of the first comments I heard when I went to my first swimming class with my children.

A mom sitting beside me asked me, โ€˜So what do you do?โ€™ I replied, ‘ Iโ€™m a stay-at-home mom.’

One of the ladies sitting by us remarked that being ๐—ท๐˜‚๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ฎ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜†-๐—ฎ๐˜-๐—ต๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—บ must be nice.

I took that word ๐‰๐”๐’๐“ and heard you’re nothing more than a stay-at-home mom!

I thought about it as I watched my friends who had chosen to stay in their careers or didn’t have options but to stay in their careers, and I felt like maybe I am nothing more than a stay-at-home mom.

I kept that title ๐‰๐”๐’๐“ ๐€ stay-at-home mom for a long time. I felt it, wore it, and got defensive about it, but I wasn’t the only one who would take that title. I would – and still do – hear other women say I’m ๐‰๐”๐’๐“ ๐€ doctor, ๐‰๐”๐’๐“ ๐€ teacher, or I’m nothing more than a volunteer.

I’m ๐‰๐”๐’๐“ ๐€ _________.

What are you telling yourself that you are nothing more than?

One year, when I went to a speaker’s conference, I got challenged on the word JUST, and that night, I looked up the word, and right there, I saw the word to mean โ€˜exactly what I need!โ€

๐†๐จ๐ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฆ๐ž – ‘๐˜๐จ๐ฎ’๐ซ๐ž ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ˆ ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐!’

Sweet Moms, you are ๐‰๐”๐’๐“ ๐“๐‡๐„ mom that your children need! God Is so intentional that He did not give you the children you have, or have had, by some coincidence.

On Mother’s Day, if you’ve lost a child, it is easy to second guess all the things you should have done or wish you would have done. It’s easy to ask, โ€œWhat did I miss? What you did or didn’t see. It’s so hard.

There’s such a bigger picture that we don’t see!

  • God has it!
  • God has you!
  • God has your child!

He gave you that child for a very specific reason. So I hope that if you catch yourself saying I’m ๐‰๐”๐’๐“ ‘so and soโ€™s’ Mom, you stop and realize that you’re actually ๐‰๐”๐’๐“ ๐“๐‡๐„ mom that’ ‘so and so’ needs or needed!

God put them in our lives because we’re exactly what He needed for His childrenโ€”a unique way that only we could love and connect with them and make an eternal impact in their lives.

If you have lost a child, as I have, ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ซ๐จ๐ฅ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐ก๐š๐ฌ ๐ž๐ง๐๐ž๐ ๐›๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐’๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ – ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ž๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ง๐š๐ฅ.

You were exactly the mom God needed for that child!

No matter how long they were with you on this earth!

I wish you a comforting Mother’s Day, knowing you are ๐‰๐”๐’๐“ ๐“๐‡๐„ mom God needs!

Cheri Fletcher

Cheri Fletcher

Cheri is a dynamic writer, compelling speaker, and the host of the โ€œYour Spiritual Game Planโ€ podcast.ย 

She is passionate about guiding individuals in crafting a strategy to live out Godโ€™s plan for their lives. Cheri believes that understanding the strategic plots of the enemy is crucial in overcoming lifeโ€™s challenges.

Through the ups and downs of her journey, Cheri has faced numerous changes and transitions, each feeling like a piece of her identity left with each role.ย 

Her experiences have equipped her with empathy and insight, enabling her to connect with others navigating similar paths.

Cheri and her husband Todd recently relocated to Cleveland from Seattle, WA. They are the proud parents of two newly married sons, a cherished daughter who recently passed, and a loyal canine companion named Libby.ย 

Despite lifeโ€™s twists and turns, Cheri has found comfort and joy in the simple pleasures, particularly the company of friends, walks, and visiting new places.ย ย 

Known for her hospitality, she warmly invites anyone into her home for a cup of coffee, regardless of the state of her kitchen.

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